In the vast sea of people, there are encounters, and there are farewells.
Some people unexpectedly enter your world, bringing you joy, filling your past with memories. You thought you would accompany each other until the end of life.
However, fate varies. Some people are destined to be passing guests in your life, whom you cannot keep no matter how much you want to.
Not all relationships in this world can last till the end, nor will everyone always keep you in their hearts.
Most people are fickle, so it’s not surprising when someone leaves or gives up on you.
I once read in a book:
When familiar people slowly start to neglect, distance, or even stop contacting you, it means someone else is taking your place.
Adult relationships have no expiry date. When a relationship reaches its end, it can only end. You don’t need to be secretly hurt by someone’s departure.
If someone around you suddenly stops contacting you, don’t foolishly ask for reasons or blame yourself. The best way to handle it: disconnect, let go, and move on.
Disconnect
In psychology, the more you care, the more it torments you.
I totally agree.
When someone’s attitude towards you changes, your initial reaction is sadness and distress.
If you keep obsessing over it, bearing the sadness alone, constantly messaging the other person, lowering yourself, and seeking approval, you’ll only receive ridicule.
Life is short. Wasting time and energy on unworthy people is the biggest harm to yourself.
In any relationship, once the balance tips, it’s hard to maintain it.
So, when you care a lot about someone, but they treat you indifferently or take your efforts for granted, you should learn to withdraw your warmth and disconnect.
The most important thing in this world is to take care of yourself first. This simple truth sometimes takes a long journey to fully realize.
Instead of exhausting all your warmth on someone who doesn’t value you, it’s better to remove them from your life, not contact them, not disturb them, and live your life well.
Let Go
Some say:
If you fall in love with someone who constantly dismisses your efforts and shows indifference to your persistence, who never truly values you and considers you a backup plan, you will feel heartache, regret your blind devotion, and eventually find it hard to sustain the relationship.
Ultimately, genuine feelings shouldn’t be trampled upon. If true love is constantly ignored, parting ways will be the only outcome.
Encountering the wrong person at the wrong time is a mistake in itself.
For someone who doesn’t care about you, no matter what you do, you can’t change their attitude.
If you try to salvage it, hoping they will turn around, you’ll only end up disappointed.
Learning to let go is for the other person’s benefit and your self-respect.
With just a few decades in life, you should be able to pick up and let go without regretting the wrong paths taken or choices made.
Find Peace
Some say: If I contact someone I deeply care about and they don’t reply for a long time, I will not hesitate to delete the conversation because I don’t want to see myself groveling or experience the disappointment of losing.
Humans are naturally afraid of being neglected. Seeking warmth and response is instinctual.
However, many times, someone entering your world doesn’t guarantee a lasting presence.
The most unbearable thing in a relationship is when you consider someone significant in your life, but they see you as expendable.
About friendship, someone said:
There was a time when I believed you were my irreplaceable best friend. We were honest with each other, weathered storms together, almost felt like merging into one. I vowed that even at the age of eighty, we would still walk side by side.
However, time flies, and today, our relationship has become no different from strangers. Those vows about friendship, washed away by reality, seem even more feeble and absurd than love.
Very few relationships can withstand trials.
If neglect signals the end of a relationship, the best approach is to go with the flow, slowly find peace in the river of time.
What is finding peace?
Not being disturbed by emotions, not being trapped by feelings, not fearing the future, not dwelling on the past.
Finding peace means not regretting what’s missed, not letting go of what’s owned, smiling as you move forward.
Freeing your inner self, no longer entangled by the past or obsessions, shaking hands with life, and making peace with yourself.
For the rest of your life, learn to find peace, self-heal, adjust your mindset, and embrace life again.
When someone you care about starts to neglect you, the sense of loss and helplessness can be overwhelming. However, life is full of uncertainties, and we can’t control others’ feelings and attitudes. At this point, the best way to cope is to disconnect, let go, and find peace.
Disconnect to give yourself a calm space, not to be hurt by the other’s indifference;
Let go to free yourself from past entanglements, no longer clinging to the gone feelings;
Finding peace is to truly let go from the bottom of your heart, no longer dwelling on past regrets.
Only then can we rediscover our position, move forward, and embrace a brighter future.