“What kind of women do men feel sorry for?” When faced with this question, many girls might immediately think of those delicate and helpless girls, believing that such girls are the ones who easily win men’s affection.
They may also think of those deeply in love, quietly giving without expecting anything in return, or those who always bear everything alone.
However, this is not entirely accurate. As a man, I feel it’s necessary to reveal our true inner world to you.
Men Feel More Sorry for Women Who Love Themselves
I have a friend who, not long after getting married, had a dispute with her husband.
First, she refused to eat, thinking her husband would feel sorry for her and come to comfort her. But her husband remained indifferent.
So, she decided to leave home, hoping to get his attention.
She thought the man would come after her and apologize, but not only did he not chase her, he didn’t even call or text.
On a cold winter night, she wandered outside for hours, feeling increasingly disheartened and even considering divorce.
Many girls torment themselves in this way to make men worry, hoping to gain their sympathy and care.
However, seeking affection in this manner often backfires. If you keep being emotional and hurting yourself, men will only become more indifferent.
Also, if you don’t eat or leave home, the man might not even know why you’re doing it!
He might think you’re doing it because you’re on a diet or taking a walk.
If your husband occasionally annoys you, then you should go out—have fun, call your girlfriends, shop, eat, drink, and use his credit card!
At that moment, even if he doesn’t feel sorry, he will have to. Do you think he will dare to make you unhappy in the future?
Always remember, men won’t feel sorry for you because you’re pitiful; they will feel sorry for you because you’re lovely, deserving of love, and charming.
If you’re too weak, he won’t feel sorry for you; he will only bully you.
So, if you want a man to feel sorry for you, you must love yourself. Instead of tormenting yourself, torment him. If you find him annoying and don’t want to see him, take some money, go out, and have a good time.
Then come back home, but never harm yourself foolishly.
Independent Women Make Men Feel More Sorry
Some girls in relationships always give silently, sacrificing everything without expecting anything in return. They can give up their careers and dreams for their families and loved ones, dedicating themselves wholeheartedly to family life.
You might think men will see your selflessness and greatness, feel your efforts and sacrifices, and therefore feel sorry for you, cherish you, and appreciate you. But let me tell you, it’s not certain, and most of the time, it won’t happen.
There’s a saying: “You can love humbly, so humbly that you become dust, but no one will love the dust in you.”
This phrase reveals a cruel truth about love: excessive humility and dependence often make relationships more fragile, and your sacrifices and dedication may be taken for granted.
What truly captures a man’s attention are independent, self-reliant women.
They have their own lives and careers, not entirely dependent on men emotionally or financially.
This independence makes men realize that you have the ability to leave at any time, making them cherish and pay more attention to you.
When he sees your hard work and struggles in the workplace, he might feel sorry for you, naturally wanting to share your burdens and provide more care and support.
Men are like this: the more you love him, the less he loves you; the more you depend on him, the more unreliable he becomes; the more independent you are, the more he feels sorry for you.
Women Who Can Act Coquettish and Vulnerable Make Men Feel More Sorry
Of course, loving yourself doesn’t mean being selfish, and being independent doesn’t mean becoming domineering and distant. If you can be a bit coquettish and vulnerable at the right times, it will also make men feel affectionate towards you.
For example, when my husband is not at home, I can open bottle caps and lift water buckets. But as soon as he is home, I transform into a fragile woman, struggling to open the bottle cap and complaining about the heavy water bucket.
This moderate coquettishness and vulnerability make him feel my need for him, making him want to protect me even more.
Every time it snows, I sweetly say, “The road is so slippery, handsome, come and help the beautiful lady!” At this moment, he can only tightly hold my hand, protecting me cautiously, afraid that I might slip and get hurt.
Once, while washing dishes, I accidentally broke a bowl. When cleaning up the shards, I cut my finger. I immediately ran to him, saying in a delicate voice, “Oh, I’m bleeding!”
Seeing the blood oozing from my finger, he felt sorry. Since then, he never let me touch those glass shards, and he even hesitated to let me do simple tasks like washing dishes.
So, if you’re sick or have a stomach ache, there’s no need to endure it. Let him buy you medicine, pour you a cup of hot water with brown sugar. Only then will he understand that you’re not invincible and that you also need his care and love.
And as a result, he will cherish and love you even more.
In conclusion, to make a man feel sorry for you, you must first learn to love and cherish yourself, maintain independence and autonomy, and also know when to be coquettish and vulnerable.
Remember, men won’t feel sorry for you because you’re miserable; they will cherish you because of your charm and worthiness of love.
So, girls, don’t forget to find happiness and fulfillment in your own life, become a confident and vibrant woman, and only then can you truly earn a man’s respect and affection.